What's Next?

Recently, after a hot bondage scene with a very experienced bottom I was asked what I'd like to learn next. What direction I see myself going in as a dominant. He complimented my bondage skills/technique/style. I noted that I am just beginning and that I learn something new every time I play. This is a big and interesting question- not one that I necessarily feel the need to answer, however caught off guard during a casual conversation and after and intense session the first thing that came out of my mouth was that I'd like to focus on strengthening my real D/s connections. The sessions that I have the most fun with are those when the submissive is able to really surrender control, and/ or has a true and compelling desire to serve. This is rarely accomplished in short periods of time- thus my delight in extended play.

There is a lot of self discipline necessary in maintaining as a Dominant and I feel that I've just scratched the surface as far as what I'm capable of. Potency, compatibility. It is all a delicate dance at times- selecting submissives from those who apply, negotiations, the play itself. Sometimes it feels scientific: drawing from tested formulas to yield desired reactions. Other times purely artistic: through intuitive impulse I pull together physical and psychological elements which melt into the perfect moment.

Being choosy, slowing down, going deeper. That's what's next.

P.S.
Happy Halloween!