Ms. Tara Sterling

Happy New Year!

2010-01-01T12:04:00.000-08:00

Hope it has been safe and joyful for you all!

Dominant Daydreams...

2009-12-25T18:47:00.000-08:00

"Maybe everything should be presented to Me on a silver platter from now on..."

Why not?

Hope you all are enjoying the holiday, having delicious meals in a cozy place. Best wishes.

Intensity: playing at your level.

2009-12-18T10:43:00.000-08:00

Just being naked in front of me has him trembling, his eyes naturally fall to the floor. As I stand over him clad in delicate sequin-covered peep toe stilletos, a simple black dress, ruffled black robe, and marabou lined gloves I take note of his obvious fear and incredibly prominent excitement. A light touch to the back of his head and his breathing hastens. I select an outfit, piece by piece, from the large wardrobe. Methodically, I have him gracefully slip into each piece: pink ruffled stockings, pink satin ruffled panties, a scratchy hot pink tutu, a demure pink blouse with broach. He catches a glimpse of himself in the mirror and lets out a moan as I slip the silicone breasts in place. The begging begins, he wants to be a good sissy bitch for me. As the cuffs clip into place on the spanking bench she lets out a yelp. Spanked into a frenzy, she thanks me over and over. The genuine reactions excite me. Later she will express gratitude and explain that she had "never felt so helpless" in her life.

What I enjoy is intensity and authenticity in my scenes, regardless of how the details of what we're doing fit onto some outside (arbitrary) scale of what "heavy" play is.

Seeeking...

2009-12-15T12:00:00.001-08:00

I'm looking for a sub, slave, or masochist who is possesses the all of the following qualities:

-Local to the Bay Area.
-Able to take marks.
-Experienced with heavy pain and corporal punishment.
-Has sessioned with me at least two times, or has a strong reference from a Domme with whom I am acquainted.
-Comfortable submitting in the presence of other Dommes and possibly other male subs.
-Has the desire to get to know me better, to submit to me on a regular basis.
-Has a schedule that allows for committing to weekly or bi-weekly meetings for three months.

You may be wondering "why"? Well, the answer to that question will be provided on a need to know basis! Contact me via email explaining how you fit each of these requirements (and provide your reference if applicable) and I'll fill you in.

*Note that I have an abundance of people who fit most of these requirements, no need to contact me about this particular post unless you fit all of them.

Tongue-Tied

2009-12-06T18:04:00.000-08:00

Biceps bound by leather straps to the back of the cage. Cold steel on every side with just inches of space. He is slender, and so perhaps has a bit more wiggle room than most in the upright cage. I secure the three locks on the front and begin with a big black clamp on his septum. I experiment with it there and then instruct him to stick out his tongue. I pull a piece of chord through the clamp as well and hoist it up, tied to the top bars of the cage. He I watch his body rise as he reaches up on his tiptoes to try to lessen the pain by creating slack on the chord. Perfect. While up on his toes, I securely bind his C&B and then tether it to a bottom bar. Pulling. He goes flat footed to avoid the pain and give some slack to that chord, of course making the tension on his tongue excruciating. I step back to watch him struggle between the two, and laugh with delight as he starts to moan and drool...

Humiliation: Emotional Sadism and Masochism

2009-12-03T11:41:00.000-08:00

In response to a question regarding emotional sadism and whether it was an important quality in a 'true humiliatrix', I quickly typed this out. I think there are a couple of points that make it worth re-posting here:

I've heard Domme friends of mine say that they don't do it because it is mirroring abusive/codependent behavior and attracts needy/codependent submissives. Or that they want BDSM to be a positive experience for their clients and humiliation/ emotional sadism just adds to their shame or lack of self confidence. I disagree completely- I try to remind them that that is a misconception that a lot of people have about BDSM in general; and that Humiliation can be experienced in the same context as all of our other play, where it is well negotiated and executed in a healthy positive way.

Sure, the sub may feel painful things like rejection, embarrassment, inadequacy, failure, emasculation, desperation... But just like the sting of a cane or the fear of a mindfuck it is all a part of the desired, exciting, adventure of the scene.

Just as a physical masochist needs to know his limits, and be able to communicate to keep a scene safe and hot- a humiliation bottom does as well.

It can be extremely cathartic for people to hear someone they admire tear them down in all of the ways that they fear most...

And just like a physical Sadist within a well negotiated respectful BDSM context, a Humiliation top doesn't have the actual desire to cause harm to the bottom- simply play with and explore painful territory in a consensual and risk-aware way.

What qualities to look for in a "true humiliatrix" is probably best answered by "what is a true humiliatrix" ?

On Castration/ Amputation Fantasies

2009-11-30T12:50:00.000-08:00

Permanent. Like a tattoo, only instead of giving She is taking away. There is something, deep, dark, severe, and undoubtedly considered by most to be F-ed up about erotic fantasies around castration and amputation in general. I absolutely have them. My mind wanders and I think about cold, clinical removals- and then the opposite end of the spectrum in which someone I have a strong D/s connection with willingly gives up a big part of themselves as an act of devotion.

It should go without saying but for the record: I would not ever want to actually perform a castration or amputation.

Recently I started asking people for ideas about ways to create scenes and sessions around these themes. Many brought up a fun game I already enjoy playing, which is incorporating aversion therapy with the goal of effectively neutering the submissive. Others brought up role play scenarios in which sensation, CBT, sensory deprivation, bondage and narrative/mind fuck are used to make the submissive believe in the moment that I am actually castrating them. And then of course, there is severe enforced chastity.

All of these are great ideas. Since the elaborate roleplay idea is the one that I haven't explored in depth yet out of the above mentioned I think it is something I'd like to do:

You arrive, shower, and present yourself to me in the dungeon. On your knees, looking up at me your eyes widen as I explain that today is the day. We've talked about it before, the fact that it is not a reflection of your true nature- about how, forever changed by My hand you would be much better off. Your breath quickens as I snap on your collar. Expecting the leather restraints to come next, my command to return to the front room confuses you. One of your suitcases is waiting there. I've packed it for you and it is sitting right next to mine. I tell you to get dressed and pull the car around.

Once on the plane, I decline the meal for you. No eating for 12 hours before surgery. Usually when we travel you are responsible for all of the logistics, taking care to make sure that I am pampered every step of the way, so it is a bit jarring to be the one being carefully put into the back seat of the town car and given a comfortable room to settle into in the recovery wing of the private clinic. I notice your uneasiness and remind you to allow yourself to enjoy it. It is your big day after all.

You feel something warm envelope your hand, you open your eyes and see that it is mine. Still completely out of it from the anesthetics you ask "Is it done?" I tell you it is. "Thank you Mistress"

Meet my friend Donna!

2009-11-22T12:38:00.000-08:00

A good friend of mine has just started sessioning at Fantasy Makers, my old stomping ground. We have really different repertoires, and she is new to a lot of things and interested in learning/trying new things, however she has that certain something that makes me think a lot of people who enjoy playing with me would have a lot of fun with her too. I can highly recommend her based on her personality: She is intelligent and quick witted which as most of you know means a lot. Not to mention dead sexy!

I am definitely interested in doing double sessions with her of all kinds. Let me know if her profile sparks any fantasies involving both of us and we'll see what we can set up...

Keys...

2009-11-11T09:21:00.000-08:00

When I was younger I used to keep all of the old keys I would find walking around, hiking, or exploring in a big jar in my room. Besides the aesthetic attraction to the various shapes and shades I think there has always been a fascination with other-worlds and the mysterious keys would spark my imagination.

Last weekend a friend was admiring my keyring and asked me about it's origins. It is a steel cock ring of course! It lead us to a conversation about each key, and I realized I've definitely developed a sort of adoration for my bondage keys. They bring back fond memories of hot scenes- My very own very real other-worlds.

My friend didn't recognize any of the keys, I was sort of surprised by that because I've become so familiar with them. Do any of you all recognize them? Special prize for the first person to name all five visible items on the keyring in this photo! (taken with my Blackberry this morning, make sure to zoom in to catch the one hiding in the back)

Time flies when you're having fun!

2009-11-08T13:12:00.000-08:00

My birthday month ended with a bang and I've continued enjoying being back in S.F.. Romping and playing in and out of the dungeon over the last couple of weeks has kept me happily away from the computer. Interesting developments since I've posted:

1. My collection of stilettos has doubled. No joke.
2. Travel dates to Portland have been set, and I have availability Nov. 18 & 19
3. Fall is in full effect, so my sexy sweaters and boots have come out of the closet!
4. I got my motorcycle license and will be shopping for riding leathers and a bike next week (which are a really appreciated gift from one of you- thank you, you know who you are)
5. My collection of gear has expanded with some fun small new bondage and chastity pieces which you should be hearing about here in stories and fantasies in the coming weeks.

I'm off to do a shoot today with Larry Utley, I have been thinking about this particular idea for a shoot for over a year and I think that he is just the person to help me bring these images to life. He is a really great photographer because he is focused on capturing images of people as they are doing or being what they love- he isn't hung up on his own idea of how they should look. He was actually the first professional photographer to take photos of me and I've always been grateful for that experience. Anyway, this shoot should be interesting. Nothing really over the top, just hoping to catch and highlight many of my subtle fetishes and my personal style. Wish me luck!

P.s. for a good time check out this hot story about a session with Me.

Residenz Sterling

2009-10-25T12:57:00.000-07:00

My slave has been in town and serving me since Thursday evening. We have been staying in a private vacation home he secured in the middle of one of my favorite neighborhoods in San Francisco. There has been a lot going on between the dungeons on both sides of the Bay and our home-away-from-home, and maybe later this week after he leaves Monday afternoon I will get a chance to share some of the stories about it: heavy corporal, cigarette torture, real domestic servitude, voice/ speech training, judgment, of course enforced chastity, and affirmations of slavery and ownership.Tonight he is cooking and serving dinner for Myself and five other Femdoms...

One fantasy that keeps coming to mind for me is the idea of Residenz Sterling, at the Russian River. Not going to go into detail, but for those kindred spirits out there I'm sure you can fill in the blank space with plenty.

A day with My leather slut

2009-10-20T17:59:00.000-07:00

It started early this morning when I woke up. After dressing and walking down the block for a cup of coffee I returned to my desk and pulled up the email correspondence I've been carrying on with the tart of a subbie leather fetishist I was to see. We met for the first time almost exactly a year ago, and since had been in touch off and on- our travel schedules never quite coinciding.

I packed my bag to bring to the dungeon: thigh-high leather boots, my form fitting leather mini, the custom leather underbust corset, a soft black camisole and a harsh little leather vest. It was novel to watch the morning hustle and bustle of Downtown S.F. as I walked from the guarded car park over and up to the play space. After arranging candles and setting out select bondage pieces, as well as plugging in my Erostek 312 to charge, I replaced my flat leather boots for the spike-heeled thigh highs. The warm thickness slid over my stockinged leg with ease, and the neat little ankle-zipper pulled this second-skin taught and into place. Lacing my corset came next, using the mirror to make sure I was pulling the proper strings tight and to see that they were all lined up in a pleasing fashion. At the vanity I lightly brushed on powder from my compact, soft red lipstick, and gentle green eyeshadow (it was mid-morning after all!).

Not twenty minutes later he would be at the same vanity. I wanted a perfectly made up doll to play with, and that was what he was to become. A leather skirt not unlike my own, a lace bustier, breast inserts, a shawl to narrow her shoulders, and red strappy spiked heels put her in the right mood. Let's not forget the black satin and lace panties underneath it all. She sat up straight and cocked her chin demurely as I brushed out the long blonde wig which now framed her face. Sweeping bangs made her look almost innocent. Looking up at me, she accepted a full face of make up.

Locked with arms and legs both spread open wide the torture began. Clamps, ropes, and relentless teasing. Black pins crushing her nipples made blows to her breasts all the more brutal. Worked up into a horny mess, she crawled around the room wantonly wagging her bum in the air. Her reward: my leather boots. Standing above her, I watched her eyes as I explained that messing up her lipstick would be a punishable offense. Open those lips wide and use your tongue. Tips of the toes to the tops of my thighs, greedily sniffing the rich scent her tongue scurried over each crease and along each curve of my boots.

To be continued...

In West Hollywood / Beverly Hills with Mistress Kendra!

2009-10-14T20:40:00.000-07:00

Kendra Knight and I are having a blast in L.A. ... No time to write between the shopping, art, music, and amazing food (yay, restaurant week!) but wanted to let you know that we have some availability this Friday and if you would like to join one or both of us for a session at our West Hollywood/ Beverly Hills location you should get in touch:

www.mistresskendra.com
(510) 755-7244

or: ms.tara.sterling@gmail.com

A peek inside my correspondence

2009-10-08T11:30:00.000-07:00

Excerpt from an email sent out this morning, to a play partner who has expressed interest in slave training:

...I think I've been clear thus far that all of this is a learning process for both of us- learning about each other. The basic phases of training with me include evaluation, basic training, and then classic slave-applications as well as of course play throughout. Basic training includes social and physical training which will help you better relate to Me, and classic slave-applications are where you learn the mechanics of serving Me. The specifics of both of these things are entirely based on what I discover through evaluation which is a process of extensive, invasive interviewing and interrogation as well as testing. Often these phases overlap, I am constantly evaluating, and you may learn some classic slave-applications while still working on basic training.

The success of this training process relies on your desire, authenticity, honesty, patience, and tenacity as well as My desire, commitment, clarity and thoroughness (among other things!) as well as our general compatibility.

So that leads us to logistis: the where, and when of all of this. I have been spoiled by my current slave/ property because he was/ is able to do phone training sessions 2+ times per week and session for multiple days at a time multiple times a year as well as extensive email contact in between. That spaciousness really allowed us to go deep, fast. I tell you this for the sake of transparency: coming up with a training process within your budget will be new for me. I'm happy for the challenge.

Phone sessions are XXX per approx. 1 hour and live sessions are as posted on my website. I suggest that we start with one phone session per month and one live session every other month. It may seem dauntingly slow at this moment (it does to me at first thought) however I think one foot in front of the other, and within both of our logistical limits, is a great way to begin.

Things that will help speed things along:

-Mindfulness around My instructions. I ask for specific things for a reason. For example if I send a list of topics I plan to discuss with you over the phone there is no need to respond to them in detail over email.
-Patience: you are not the only man I have waiting for responses from Me. Each is uniquely important, however understanding that I am a busy person is key.
-As I mentioned, honesty and authenticity are required. There are no "right" answers, the probing that I am going to be doing is to ensure success and be sure that I don't set us up for failure!
-I reserve the right to break my own rules. Double standards are the name of the game. I do respect my submissives and slaves, however this is a Femdom connection and what I say is law, no matter if it contradicts past commands. I will not apologize for changing my mind, or making executive decisions. Training and agreements are meerely a way to prepare you to better interact with me, I refuse to have my desires bound by my own protocol. (That does not mean limits will not be respected.)

If you are aggreeable I would like to proceed with our first phone session and begin the evaluation process.

Do let me know what your thoughts and questions are. As soon as you tell me that you are ready to start I will send you study topics/prompts so that you are prepared for the phone session.

Again, I appreciate that you have come to Me with your desire to submit and I truly hope to know more about you and possibly possess you.

-Ms. Sterling

Birthday Month!

2009-10-04T16:30:00.000-07:00

October is my birthday month, and instead of sticking to one day I plan to make the whole thing fun and special. Well, I like to make every day fun and special, my birthday is really just an excuse.

I just got back from a weekend getaway a few hours North of the city, which was a great way to recharge after a busy kink-filled week, which included lots of inescapable bondage, metal, rubber, subs expressing interest in being trained as slaves, and the first of my birthday treats. One of the people I played with was new to me, we had never met before, but he brought me a box of all-natural (some organic) artisan chocolate on top of which was a tiny card that said "Happy Birthday." I really appreciated the fact that he had noticed that detail on my website, I had in fact forgotten that the month was approaching! I've also received several sweet emails which I appreciate as well. Having (ironically) not played with rubber while in Berlin it was a pleasure to get gummi'ed up, and to pull out the rubber straight jacket.

I'm looking forward to seeing and meeting some great people this week, and to giving away many birthday spankings all month!

Going Deeper: a first encounter

2009-09-29T11:17:00.000-07:00

After initial testing...

I twirl the numbers on the black, metal combination locks. Three of them hold the steel door of the upright, all-metal coffin-sized cage. His hands locked into fist-mitts and ankles in manacles, I lock each limb to the bars of the cage, and pull his arms behind his back to secure them firmly in place with a strap across each bicep. The eager piggy nose was fitted with a small metal leash earlier, and now it is pulled taught and secured to the cage as well. C&B firmly bound, spread and secured in place, adorned with electrical bands.

Underside vulnerable and legs secured in place, he can't close or protect his soft and tender areas. Arms locked in place. Erostek pulsing. Eyesight restricted. Tummy strap holding him still. Resistance isn't on the menu. He reverts back to the beginning of this several hour long conversation, in which it became clear that from his position there was really only one practical option: "Yes Mistress."

Fingers held into fists by tight wraps. Nasty Rubber straightjacket tight on his nasty piggy skin. Flat on his back, adjustable pillow underneath, saran wrap holds his head firmly in place. Needless to say he will be here for a while. Silicone toe-separators inhibit squirming, as do the tight leg, hip, and chest straps. Corona tip and bigger ring get to frying him, while a funnel in his mouth makes him vulnerable to violation of another kind. Nose stretched by metal hooks. Meat.

New Dungeon Space in SOMA! +Heading to L.A.

2009-09-24T18:39:00.000-07:00

I'm heading to Los Angeles and will be available October 14-18, get in touch now if you'd like to get together. There's a new cool dungeon in Downtown Los Angeles that I want to check out, and I plan to spend plenty of time with a good friend and her slave in his beach house.

In other news, I will now be taking sessions at Vinyl Queen's private dungeon (as well as continuing at the spacious loft location in the East Bay at the base of the Bay Bridge where I've been playing for the last year). I'm excited about this for several reasons, but one key element is location. Here is what I posted to my website about it:

Getting there: Situated one block from Moscone Center in San Francisco’s SOMA district there are several options for transportation here. Several public transport lines run nearby, including BART and the Muni light rail. A five minute Taxi ride will bring you here from the Financial District, or Union Square. A 20 minute drive will take you to SFO.

Atmosphere: This is the exclusive, private domain of Vinyl Queen and has been designed to meet her classic high Femdom standards. It is a comfortable, versatile space in which the BDSM gear takes center stage.

The Details: A domestic setting is available with everything necessary for cross dressing, role play, OTK spanking, or simply prettying you up before I take you into the dungeon. Large all steel upright cage, large cage and bondage table, CBT chair, suspension, and several options for spanking benches are just a few of the larger bondage pieces available. Bathroom and shower available.

I'm busily enjoying the heat here in San Francisco, bustling around and finally feeling settled and back into my groove here. Looking forward to spending as much time outside as possible for the last week of September and then diving right in to my Birthday month which is going to hold many surprises...

Catch up

2009-09-10T15:05:00.000-07:00

Emails, phone calls, appointments, social events, lunches... laundry! To hear about my kinky adventures and travels, catch up with me regarding the season ahead, or simply to explore and play give me a call. I will be on and off all week while settling back in to San Francisco.

Other quick notes:

There is a certain someone who has put thoughts of heavy hoods and ball gowns into my head, once I have time you will be hearing more about that as well.

I'm going to be attending the Footnight party on October 2nd, hosted by Vinyl Queen and look forward to seeing my fave foot lovers there as well as meeting new ones.

I have really appreciated all of the 'welcome home' notes and gifts. It gives me a warm fuzzy feeling to know you've missed being stepped on, spat on, beaten, mindfucked and imprisoned by me!

My Return to San Francisco

2009-09-08T15:54:00.000-07:00

Berlin was wonderful, as were all of my travels this Summer. Just settling back in to San Francisco and wanted to post a quick note to let you all know that I'm back and looking forward to catching up with you.

Berlin Again

2009-08-09T06:25:00.000-07:00

I'm back in Berlin, and actually have some availability in the next ten days. If you've been trying to contact me now would be a great time to touch base- or if you will be in the area, by all means let me know and let's set something up!

l'animal familier irrite

2009-07-31T23:25:00.000-07:00

Those of you who read often have probably noticed that I don't write much, if any, negative stuff here. That is intentional, as there are only so many hours in the day and I prefer to spend them thinking about the things that make me go "oooh..." or "wheee!" instead if "ack!" or "argh..." However here I am in Paris, and inspired by the way my French friends and (vanilla) colleagues like to argue and complain about everything in detail (from the temperature of wine degree by degree to the proper way to greet people of different origins) I am going to let you in on my top five (in no particular order) current pet peeves regarding sessioning and BDSM. Some of you have already learned these things first hand. Take heed potential submissives and bottoms:

1. Do not confuse D/s with D/s role play.
If you are new to BDSM it is understandable that you may not know the difference, or that you may not know within yourself what it is that you truly seek, however for experienced players I see no reason to mix the two up. Telling me that you want to truly submit to a Femdom within a temporary TPE context will not make for a great session when in fact what you want is fetish and sensory play within D/s roleplay. If you wish to submit and focus on what I wish to do with you based on my desires and analysis I am delighted to make arrangements to explore D/s together. If you would prefer to explore a specific set of fetish and sensory play activities, and fetishes, within your comfort zone and create a role play scenario in which I take over and inflict said activities as if it was all my idea we could do that instead. However you must be honest about which you want, and which you feel is best for you. If you aren't sure, it is always okay to ask!

2. Do not send extensive/ further emails after we have set a date for a phone consult. Furthermore do not expect me to spend time with you outside of sessioning, especially if we do not know one another.
Certain things are better discussed over the phone rather than email. Beyond the fact that it is disobedient for you supposedly uber submissive people out there, it is simply rude to expect that I spend extensive time corresponding with you or any at all beyond what I specify. I will make it clear when I believe we are ready for a phone consultation, and you must buck up and face the butterflies in your stomach- or hunker down and find a way to create privacy for yourself within your busy schedule (or both for most of you!) and make that call. Do not, instead write lengthy emails further delving into your psyche and kink. Otherwise you likely risk missing out on meeting me. Be comforted in the fact that I am excited to speak to you (I wouldn't have given you my number if I wasn't) and that I will be in a private place ready for our discreet conversation when you call. Along the same lines, do not expect or ask me to have lunch/drinks/dinner with you outside of a session, especially if we have never met! I'm not even going to go into a detailed explanation of that one, I'm happy to pass on those of you who don't understand the why and how of this.

3. If we are out together, tip generously- or I will.
There are those of you who agree with this practice, and those who don't. I won't try to convince you that I'm right but rather ask that you respect/ indulge this preference during our outings. I tip people in the service industry (spa practitioners, waiters, taxi drivers, etc) 20% in the U.S., and 5-10% in Europe (15-20 if the service is exceptional). It is a myth that one doesn't tip in Europe.

4. I expect you to be as discreet as I am.
My privacy is important to me too, as it is to other Dommes. If we are discussing our experiences and sharing details about our past it is one thing, however I do want you to consider the fact that what happens in a scene between two people is for those two people alone. There are some fine lines to be danced around in this regard, as we love to relive and revel in our kinky memories together- but there are clear lines as well, if you and I don't know each other well yet it is best to imagine that whichever Mistress you are speaking about is within ear shot.

5. Make personal calls while I am out of earshot.
I understand that if we are going to spend several days together you may have to make a few phone calls during that time. It is perfectly acceptable, and preferable, for you to excuse yourself to another room while you do so.

*****

Once the arguing and complaining is over, the French are quite fun. Several of the people I have been spending time with are in fact characatures of my American stereotypes about them. Cheese and wine all over the place, openly sexual and sensual in conversation, endearingly lecherous (think Pepe Le Pew), and generally effusive while maintaining an air of snobbery. Imagine the sun setting on a group of about ten women, sitting with windows open to the hot summer breeze and expansive view of the city. The table is 'bordel' with cheese, bread, fruit, nuts, and gazpatcho strewn between wine glasses and bottles. Ashtrays teeter around the edges. The conversation builds, half in English and half in French with translations both ways and spans about a million topics from politics to catacombs, astrology to genetics, publishing to strip joints. I am the youngest, the oldest being about 40 and the rest right are in between. The 40 year old is the most voluptuous while the rest are slender and sleek. It gets louder and louder as the bottles empty. The woman next to me takes a long drag on her cigarette and looks me square in the eye, she asks "Are you having a sex vacation, or no?" I pause, then ask her to repeat, not quite sure I heard her correctly. She clarifies that a friend is interested in me, however not sure if I am available. The particular friend she is speaking about is not attractive to me, though I think she is a fabulous person- and I say so. Across the table another woman stamped out her cigarette, finished her glass of wine, and said "Oh, so we are playing verite ou action?" And with that a chaotic game of truth or dare ensued. Chocolate mouse being licked by several tongues from my cleavage, the bottoms of my bare feet licked heel to toe, the whole room dark and one woman prancing from person to person doing 'as she pleased.' The high point for me though, was getting a delicate blonde to snort blue cheese up her nose. Quite hilarious.

In Berlin with Violette

2009-07-28T03:33:00.001-07:00

Yes, it has been a fab week and tomorrow we are off to Paris! A packed social schedule, not as kinky as usual actually- and plenty of sight seeing as well. Having Violette here has been great because it has totally switched me into true vacation mode, whereas although I travel a lot I am always working on one project or another- and though we are busy and I haven't put down my various projects I have still gotten into a really relaxed, playful, and holiday-ey state of mind. We may manage to fit in a visit to Dildo King, the giant sex toy shop, later on this afternoon...

Sardinia - Beauty and Intrigue

2009-07-19T13:22:00.000-07:00

My visit to Sardinia was fabulous. I found it to be both beautiful and culturally intriguing. Most of my time was spent in a rural area, with lovely calm beaches. Day trips took me to historical land marks and points of archeological interest (pre-Roman structures) and to the lovely, bustling town of Porto Chervo. The people I encountered and talked to were all pretty politically neutral (when it comes to anything beyond extremely local politics) and Italian-identified, however tell-tale graffitti showed that the stories about Sardinian nationalists/sepratists are not at all false. The old Sardinian flag flies freely all over the island, you can follow that link to read all about the history and contriversy surrounding it- the summarized explination that everyone I asked about it gave me was that it is held over from the Aragonians who are the people who 'first fortified' (eg settled) the island and who defeated the Moors in Spain... These are also people who speak a heavily Spanish-influenced dialect. In any case, I found that there were many layers of culture in each corner and crevace of Sardinia, from the historical mish-mosh to the current day immigration, and migration patterns and travels of the people who live there. Warm, picturesque Mediterran swimming and lounging was not disappointing- I didn't mind the toplessness either! You all know how I feel about food, and I was not let down in that department either. There is a lot more, but you'll have to ask me about it another time because there is much too much fun distracting stuff happening at the moment for me to spend time on the computer!

I'm back in Berlin now for about ten days, awaiting my friend Violette Thorngate's arrival and our trip to Paris together. I'm happy for this time to catch my breath in this increasingly familiar and comfy city- as well as catch up on all that is happening here (and do some laundry...)

Now is a great time to get in touch if you'd like to see Violette and I together because we are in touch and scheduling our time together. Address requests to whomever of us you are aquainted with- or Cc us if we haven't met.

Hope you all are well whever you are reading from!

Fantasy

2009-07-09T03:39:00.001-07:00

There is a new submissive who is seeking consideration for training and slavery with me. I am very excited by the possibilities, she is a bright and exciting woman with whom I have many compatibilities. Through her eagerness, my ability to maintain perspective is tested. It would be best for us to lay a solid foundation through a slow build up starting with shorter sessions- however I find myself day dreaming...

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This is how the first day may happen:

Part One: The Arrival

There are a few days in the beginning of August, after my visit to France, which are free. It would be quite possible to set aside five days for intensive training. I have packed light, one carry-on suitcase, however a detailed packing list had been sent to her two weeks ago and I knew that it would be rather uncharacteristic for her to leave anything out.

While I am on the plane from Paris to (Greece? Spain? Southern Italy? Monaco?) she is unpacking. Having arrived two nights and one day before, she has been able to recover from jet lag and mentally prepare for my arrival. Now it is time for her to physically prepare. First she takes all of her things out and arranges them in the drawers and bathroom. Clothes for daytime, and evening wear out on the town all according to a dress code I had set. A bathing suit I picked out, and three different lingerie sets- all picked out by me as well. Books and magazines to keep her busy while I rest, as well as a journal, are set out onto her desk.

Next, she wheels a second suitcase into my suite. Our rooms are adjoining and later once I arrive she will be required to leave hers open to me at all times. "Toys" and other accouterments are put into specific places as per my instruction. Gloves on the night stand, cane and crop on the desk, cuffs in the top drawer, rope at the foot of the bed... and so on. I imagine she would take the suitcase back into her room for storage, and then go back and slowly double check her list. Once, maybe twice. Finally, she takes out another list from her computer bag/ briefcase and heads out to do a bit of light shopping for a few remaining items.

As soon as the adjoining suites are properly prepared for her Mistress (Me!) she would head down to the spa. I want her to have a fresh manicure - pedicure, and for her to be hairless below the neck. She also stops at the salon to have her hair trimmed and blown straight.

I arrive at the airport and as soon as I finish adjusting my lipstick in the bathroom, and slipping on my sunglasses, I find the driver who is waiting for me. He passes me an envelope with two sets of keys, one for my room and one for hers. With a click, I hear the latch give way and I walk into my room.

She is next door, and hears the door shut tightly behind me. The door connecting our rooms is currently closed, and her heart skips a beat as she hears the thud of my bag hitting the floor. Hurrying to close the final clasp on her bra, and pull a dress on over her head, she smears her lipstick.

I quickly strip and jump into the shower for a quick rinse off before slipping into my favorite heels, a loose slip, and a sheer robe. I towel dry my hair, and smooth on the rich dark red lipstick I had on before. A bit of mascara, and my earrings- and then I am ready to settle in.

I walk over to the doors connecting our rooms, and look over my shoulder at the clock. Exactly three minutes past the designated time. Her breathing is shallow and fast as she sits, kneeling on the other side of the door. Her eyes cast down, she does not notice the time. I open the door, and find her there- exactly as I wanted.

Part Two: Work for It or "The Test"

It is no secret that she wants to be used. To have all of her holes filled by me, to be the object of my lust and a source for my physical pleasure. This much is clear. Not only through her words, but through the way her body responds to my touch. Her skin heats up, her muscles tense and relax, her spine curls, and her pussy, ass, and mouth all reach out in whichever direction they are allowed.

The dress she had hurried to put on about one hour earlier, has been forgotten. It lies in a heap on the floor in her room, while she is in mine- arms spread and bound across the desk, knees up on a chair, and ass ever so pleasingly out in the air for Me. The lovely, soft, sheer panties she is wearing have been pulled up tightly to expose her bare cheeks. The pressure on her pussy and ass is almost too much, she is swollen with desire and wants nothing more than for the underwear to be ripped off and to be completely exposed and then of course- fucked.

It isn't time for that yet though. I haven't been satisfied and I am not interested in her momentary desire for sex. No doubt, I plan to use her in that way- but clearly on my terms and only once she has proven herself worthy. I would rather fillet her, than fuck her. I would rather see her split open, heart in my hands, lips on my feet- and mind all my own.

Part Three: Pain and Purity

Her ass is completely raw now, and as I stripped her mind of all else with my cane- I decide to also finally strip her of her remaining lingerie. Creamy, pink pile of skin, meat, and bones at my feet. I take a fist full of her hair and pull her head up bringing her face forward and eyes towards me. She uses the momentum to bring herself to her knees. Arms behind her back, and bare breasts out she no longer pushes out in any direction. I take her breasts in my hands, and squeeze. Opening her mouth, she softly lets out a moan. Sliding my palm out and using my thumb and first finger I take each of her supple nipples and squeeze until that moan morphs into something else entirely.

She suffers for me, and I see her true desires shine through.

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Each day I imagine us being able to move on to another level, to get to know each other in a new way. Mornings, we would have time to privately reflect. She would write in her journal, with a summary of the previous day's events and then perhaps an additional writing assignment. In the early afternoon we would go out and enjoy the resort and sea together. Under strict D/s protocol she would be at my beck and call to do little things like apply sunscreen, or seek out refreshments. We may do some shopping, I would require that she show off as much or as little of herself as I desire. Breasts bare underneath her soft flowing dress, she would be open and available to me at all times. By late afternoon it would be time for intensive training behind closed doors. I would learn her body, and she would learn the proper ways to respond to my various commands.

Each evening, depending on our energy levels, we would celebrate our day of training. I can imagine that some nights she would be pampering me, and others I may be tending to her- licking her wounds after a day I may have gone particularly hard on her.

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Oh, day dreaming! How much trouble it has gotten me into over the years!

Interview from Oct. 2008

2009-07-07T02:21:00.000-07:00

Goddess Calico emailed me requesting an interview and I was happy to oblige. I knew it was for the DomBoss.com/messageboard but hadn't joined up there yet. Well, there is now a West Coast board there so I decided to register and I happened across the interview, and it was kind of fun to see what my answers had been. Not that long ago, but a few things have certainly changed/ evolved for me since then. Here are a few excerpts that still ring true:

Goddess Calico -Tell us a little about your background / family.

Tara Sterling - I am very much a Californian. I was raised in Southern California in a Liberal yet grounded and tight knit family. My teenage years were spent both studying as well as gaining real life experience in fields and areas that interested me. I've always been an adventurous person and I've been given a lot of space to live out and explore my passions.

Goddess Calico -Is there any scene You haven't done yet that You would like to?

Tara Sterling - I have a long list of things I want to try! I'll try to think of just a few: I travel frequently to Germany where Bizzarre Rubber is popular but I have yet to play in or try on the large Bizzarre Rubber capes and gowns. There's something fabulously absurd about them and I would love to feel the weight of all of that rubber as well as use it to smother/ indulge a submissive rubber fetishist. I love the outdoors and would really enjoy doing a kidnapping weekend in which I take the captive up to a cabin in the woods outside of S.F. and got to do both indoor and outdoor bondage and torture! Similarly, I'd like to do the same thing by the beach, and do things like water bondage in the surf and ocean (with proper safety precautions of course!). I've never had a submissive worship my boots in public, but it is something I want to make happen some time with the right person, I think it would be an amazing rush for both of us.

Goddess Calico -What is the most intense scene You ever did with a slave?

Tara Sterling - I've packed a lot of intense play into my short time as a Domme, and I think that a lot of scenes have been really intense in their own way. The times I've introduced someone to something new or they've stretched their limits just for me have been the most intense. I think the intensity level comes from my connection with the submissive rather than the severity of the act so it is hard to quantify and pick out just one.

Goddess Calico -What kinds of people come to see you?

Tara Sterling - All kinds! I am open to meeting novices as long as they have good communication skills. I also love playing with experienced, seasoned players. Often people have an idea of something specific within my skill set that they'd like to try, or they have a specific need for discretion and privacy. I also see people who are interested in connecting with another person both in and out of the dungeon.

Goddess Calico -Do you do this strictly for the money? Why? Or why not?

Tara Sterling - I don't think anyone does anything strictly for one reason. We all have a variety of motivations behind our life decisions. I became a professional dominant out of curiousity and a desire to learn more about bdsm in general and myself. I've continued playing professionally because I enjoy the lifestyle it affords me including a flexible schedule, and lots of travel. I love being my own boss! I also, as I mentioned, have a naturally adventurous personality and meeting new people, exploring their deepest fantasies and desires (as well as my own), is very fulfilling and interesting to me. I've also just got a huge Princess side and I feel at home being worshiped and adored by many- which comes with the territory in this business!

Goddess Calico -What do you enjoy about B&D and S/M?

Tara Sterling - I think that BDSM allows for heightened connection with other people through creative and deconstructionist means. I thrive on that connection and both the abstract and sometimes absurd methods used to cultivate it. The fanciful, and the fun, as well as the dark and sharp. I enjoy the rush I get from total control, and knowing that someone has placed that kind of trust in me.

Goddess Calico -What is the most satisfying thing about your job?

Tara Sterling - Being able to rock someone's world, to take them so far into a scene that we really are creating another world together for that moment. I'm most satisfied after I've done that!